I’ve sure been in a funk this month. Thanksgiving was nice, seeing everyone all together and Ashley was so talkative. I was glad to see her enjoying herself. I didn’t get sloshed like I did at the Halloween party lol. But I had fun. I read a post on a fellow widowers timeline. He was very sad and disappointed about the holiday. I could understand his pain. Unfortunately he spent the holiday alone and was no longer alive as of yesterday. I wish he would have remembered that tomorrow things can look so different. It saddens me when I hear of fellow widowers that fall by the wayside. I don’t know, maybe we failed them in some way. Or maybe they just don’t open themselves up to us enough. I understand all those feelings they are experiencing yet somehow they still feel all alone and isolated. We just need to take their hand and let them know they are not all alone. We are right there beside them. Lean on us. We will hold you up. I remember my mother telling me that for six months she sat on the couch day in and day out in shock. Finally a co worker came to visit her and told her she needed to come back to work. She eventually did but for all those months she sat alone on her couch wondering what happened to her life. I’m sorry that I didn’t realize the pain she was in. She never told me about it till many years later. Guess that’s why the words,” be kind to others because you never know what they may be going through” is so true.
Jane is a Widow 