I saw a post on a social media site today from a widow who was going to have to spend the Thanksgiving holidays alone. Her husband had recently passed and she is waiting on probate. I reached out to her to invite her to spend the holiday at my house. I told her that I also was a widow and understood how she felt. I didn’t want to tell her but it just goes down from here. All those people who tell you that they are there for you, they aren’t. Troy’s main concern wasn’t for himself but for me. He knew me better than anyone else and he knew what a struggle it would be for me without him. I have watched people drop off from that day, after shaking my hand and telling me they were there for me. No they weren’t. It just made them feel better to say it, they didn’t really mean it. And anyway when can they call it quits cause its been a few days or a few weeks, they tell themselves that it’s ok, there is a limit to grieving, that is for them anyway. I still have people dropping off, that’s ok. They will someday go through exactly what I have been going through and they will finally understand. Sad to say but we all have to go through it, you can’t escape it. I know you think it will never happen to you but it will, believe me I thought the same thing. And look here we are. So stop and think the next time you aren’t there for someone when they are grieving. It’s so true, what goes around comes around.
Jane is a Widow 