Our neighborhood was so very helpful during Troy’s treatment. They brought meals and our neighbors right next door mowed the yard for us. All these things helped so much. We were so grateful. I was so busy working two jobs and trying to keep up with all that was going on with Troy. I started having trouble writing and my legs and hands would tremble. I had trouble sleeping and I was losing weight fast. I went to the doctor and he discovered that I had developed an overactive thyroid. I had to then have an iodine test done and I was put on meds to bring the thyroid under control. I’m sure it was from all the stress I was under, eventually I went into remission and today I remain there. No one understands what it is like to watch a loved one battle cancer, there’s nothing you can really do other than pray, pray, pray. And sometimes those prayers don’t get answered the way we wished. It was so painful for me to watch Troy do battle with it. He remained so optimistic, he was willing to fight to the end. He never gave up hope, if he did he never told me. I remember watching his Mother when his father was dealing with cancer. It was so hard on her, she wasn’t healthy herself. Only when I started dealing with Troy’s cancer, did I fully understand what she went through. People have a bad habit of saying “oh I know how you feel”, no you don’t unless you went through the same thing. It’s easy to assume you know.
Jane is a Widow 