While they are alive says a lot about you as a person. I’m going to make some big changes that will affect people after I’m gone. If you want nothing to do with me when I’m alive then don’t expect me to think of you after I’m gone. We should always treat others the way we want to be treated., it’s part of our legacy. Be nice to people, quit acting like you are a better person than others. Be kind, say kind things, do kind things.