Author: janep38

My father in law John passed away on November 25, 1988, at the age of 72. We had celebrated Thanksgiving and this would be the last time John would celebrate it with us. I met him in 1975 and he had really suffered with health problems through the years. He was recuperating in the hospital from open heart surgery in December of 1975. He often spoke of his growing up and how he spent it with different families. It was almost liked he was passed from one family to another. He died from throat cancer. But no matter how bad he felt he never complained and he was always glad to see us. He was such a great father and grandfather, and he’s been missed so much. Love you John.

Thankful for spending today with family. Thank you for sharing your home with us. Troy would have been so grateful to spend it with you.

I always think of my father in law around Thanksgiving. His birthday is today and sometimes it would fall right on Thanksgiving. He was a gruff, kind man. He would give you the shirt off his back. Troy told me that his dad had hit a pedestrian with his car and the man had died when Troy was younger. He never mentioned it and I never asked him about it. The thanksgiving he passed was a sad one. I was at the house when Ruby was cooking our Thanksgiving dinner. He had fallen out of bed and things weren’t looking good. He had lost both of his legs several years back. I was so afraid he would pass without knowing how much I loved him. Ruby was in the kitchen and I went and sat on the bed next to him and told him how much I loved him. I’m so glad he knew that before he passed. I miss him, I always will. So thankful he was a part of my life. I always felt like a daughter to him cause that’s how he treated me. He had a sad time growing up, maybe that’s what made him so gruff. But I know deep down he was such a kind giving man. Thank you John for all you did for me. I’ll never forget it. What a difference you made in my life.

Thinking about Troy tonight and the holidays. We always had great times and meals with family. Troy loved the holidays. His mom told me that when he was a child they always had to get him two Christmas trees cause they got the first one so early it would dry out, so they would have to replace it. He would be disappointed with how the holidays are now. Our holidays are forever changed. It only took one person to forever change them. Some people are so selfish and self-centered that they can’t think of others, they have to have things their way. If you don’t think the way they do, then you are no longer welcome at holiday celebrations. What a sad time for our family that we are no longer celebrating the holidays as a family. This is a first for me in my 66 years. I’m so thankful my family and Troy’s were always able to celebrate holidays together. We wouldn’t have had it any other way.

The very people I gave many things to and purchased many things for is now saying I’m a bad person and I supposedly was one all along. Explain that one to me……I guess times have changed. You just throw people out when you’re done with them. I miss the good ole days. I’m thankful that Troy isn’t here to see this. He would be so hurt.