Jane is a Widow

A very dedicated co-worker passed away a week ago. He will be missed and very hard to replace. His dedication to his job was above and beyond. My heart goes out to his young daughter who will miss out on growing up with her father. It was obvious that he was also a dedicated father. Just another reminder of how quickly our lives can change. We can be gone in the blink of an eye. So hold your loved ones close.

Missing you Dad, all your wisdom. Thanks for all the traits you instilled in me. Thanks for sharing with me your experiences in the Army. All the things you went through, being injured. I really admire you. You never complained about all you went through at such a young age. I’m just so glad you opened up to me, we became so close. I’m glad I was able to help you get your war medals restored. I have them now and I treasure them. Love you Dad.

It’s really windy tonight so maybe that’s what woke me up. Sailor is resting after his week of being sick. Sailors sickness brought back memories of Scooter. She was always getting pancreatitis. It’s very painful for them, I was afraid we might lose Sailor Blue. So thankful that he’s back to his old self. I miss Lucy more than I can say. I had to give her bed away because it was too painful to look at it and she wasn’t there. I’ve noticed lately that a lot of my friends have had to say goodbye to their fur babies. I’m looking at RV’s. That’s probably the route I’m going to take. Going to look at one in Plano. I must be moving on as the song says. Im finally finished boxing up other people’s things. Ashley told me she enjoyed going through her sports memorabilia and high school momentos. Troy made her a lot of books with her sport info and he laminated all the newspaper articles about her. She was an awesome athlete. I’m glad he did that for her. He loved doing the sports with her. There was no place he would rather be. Well, hopefully I can get back to sleep now. It’s always nice going down memory lane. Never know what you will run into.

Been working the last week or so on boxing up items left behind. They aren’t mine and I don’t see why they should be taking up space here. I won’t take them when I move so I’ll give others a chance to get them or I will dispose of them. There were a lot of pictures of people I don’t know. I kept all my Grandmas letters to my aunt. And letters from Charles to my Aunt. He loved her so much, anyone could see that. Sad that he died at such a young age. It devastated my aunt. She found love again years later with someone who actually knew Charles. Reading the letters brought back many memories. I miss them all so much, but I thank them for the memories they gave me. They are priceless.

Had an awesome Christmas with Ashley and John. We had lots of laughs and watched several movies. It was so nice to share the day with them. Life is so short it’s important to share it with those you love. We are making more memories. I treasure my memories. They bring me comfort in times of sadness. I no longer cry every time I remember my life with Troy. The memories make me happy. I have so many memories of our life together, I can never run out of them. Sometimes I cry but now I no longer cry every time, I now smile and sometimes laugh at the good times we enjoyed. Grief is forever changing.

I’m being flooded with memories of Christmas past. Troy loved Christmas and he was always one of those last minute shoppers. He loved shopping at the last minute. I just saw a picture of Ashley and John. She’s so beautiful. Her hair is the longest it’s ever been. Troy would be so proud of her. She’s kind too. We had our differences in the past but she’s a wonderful, nice person. I’m looking forward to spending Christmas with them. We always reminisce about Christmas past. I know Troy will be there in spirit. I’m still missing my Lucy so much. I look at her bed and it’s empty. Miss you my Lucy Goosy!

That’s how I feel as the holidays draw closer. Losing Lucy this close to Christmas is heavy on my heart. I’m thankful for Melvin cause he’s been there for me. I so appreciate everything he’s done. It has made all the difference. But I still miss her so much. I still miss Sadie. I still miss my husband. The grieving changes but it’s always a part of your life. The memories will be comforting. They helped shaped who I am today. For this I’m thankful, that I had them all in my life.

We picked up Lucy’s ashes today. I miss her so much. She would always peek around the doorway when I got home. Two other people I know had to put their dogs down this week. When she turned 14 I knew it was borrowed time. But she seemed so healthy I thought she would live forever. Between Lucy and the letters I’ve been reading from my Aunt, my mood has been somewhat sad to say the least. But I’m thankful for both, they remind me to be thankful for those in my life. Thankful for all those memories I have. All those memories enrich my life, thank you all for showing up, it has made all the difference.

I’ve been going through a box of letters that belonged to my Aunt Beulah. In that box I’ve also found obituary leaflets for some of my family. Found the last will and testament of my Grandma. It’s nice to see how my Dad and his siblings cared for each other. They were always reaching out to each other. That’s rare these days. They were there for each other. They never spoke bad of each other. Reading them has brought up memories, such as Uncle Charles passing. It was such a shock to everyone. I never knew what Beulah really went through till I myself went through the same thing. My Mom used to say Beulah seemed bitter, I can thoroughly understand why she came across that way. She lost the love of her life. I’ll continue to read the letters. They take me back to a time when things were much simpler and people were kind. I wish things were still that way. Remember to love one another no matter what. None of us are getting out of here alive.

It’s 4 am and I can’t sleep. So reminiscent of nights after Troy passed. My sleep has never went back to the way it was. I’ve been thinking about Lucy most of the day. How much I miss her. She was such a beautiful part of my life. I can still see her looking at me with those big brown eyes. It was a week ago that we came home to find her sprawled on the floor in pain. The ER vet wanted to help her cross the bridge that night but I insisted on seeing my regular vet the next day. I’m glad we did because I can know that we tried everything possible to make her better. We gave her every chance to get better. It just wasn’t meant to be. Her and Sadie were special cause in the midst of turmoil in my life they were there right by my side. They never deserted me like family. There were steadfast in their love for me. For this I am eternally grateful, I wouldn’t have made it without them.