Tag: grief

widowed individuals. It’s been 11 years for me since my husband left this earth. I have learned a lot in those 11 years and I wish I had known then what I know now. You are so vulnerable and welcome any help you receive after losing your spouse. You’re actually in a fog, especially the first year. The second year is more painful because you are no longer in the fog. During those years following his death I let myself be used and then tossed out like trash. Troy would be furious about it. I always thought I could trust family but the events that followed in the years after Troy’s death taught me that you can’t even trust family. After they get what they want from you they make up lies and throw you to the curb. They care nothing about you, they only care what they can get from you. They can be so evil, hard to believe really but it happens. So protect yourself from this happening or you will be hurt. Keep your guard up and watch for signs. I saw the signs but ignored them because I thought everything was ok but it wasn’t. They waited for the perfect time and threw me to the curb. But you can survive, if it happens to you don’t let it affect you in a way that will forever change you. You’re still that person your spouse fell in love with and they will always be watching over you. Just be careful who you trust, especially family. They aren’t always looking out for your best interest, they are looking out for themselves unfortunately. I have actually had conversations with others who have had this same thing happen to them. Life is full of lessons, some of them are painful. Even more painful when it’s your family, the very people that are supposed to be there for you….